"My Little Couple"Qi Lanyin talks about the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: get along with mother-in-law as aunt

Phoenix Entertainment News Hunan Satellite TV" the third installment of "my family" series "my young couple" continues to be popular. The sweetness and sadness of several couples in the program also touches the hearts of the audience all the time, and many topics that reflect real life are listed in turn. On the other hand, the program's "e-sports and his wife," if Qi Lanyin is a "non-typical variety guest," makes many viewers say "it's me" by virtue of the unique mode of "quarreling every word and quarreling, and then getting along at the speed of light." A few days ago, the post-90s couple were interviewed about why they participated in the observation show and shared their feelings when recording the show, saying frankly that "this show is like a mirror that reflects what I look like in my marriage."

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in the last program, Ruofeng Qilanyin, who quarreled frequently, once again pushed the conflict to a new height, and Ruofeng even used "divorce" to express his concern about the marital relationship. The good news is that after the quarrel, the two did not fall into a continuous cold war, and Ruofeng took the initiative to open his heart and honestly untied the knot with Qi Lanyin. In the interview, talking about the view of "quarrel", Ruofeng defined it as a "mine clearance" process: "many couples may, like me, treat the people around them more politely than their partner, because they think their partner is familiar with them." just joke with her and quarrel with her casually. The quarrels we had in the program were not big, but were minor contradictions in our views and ideas. I think emotional friction will make us progress and make us understand that there will be so many contradictions in our lives. Every time we quarrel over a point, we will think of the solution to this point and the mode of getting along in the future. It is also to create a better environment to get along with each other in the future. I think it is a good thing to make good use of it, but if you do not make good use of it and your mentality has not been adjusted, it may become a landmine one by one. "

as to whether couples should mention "divorce" when they quarrel, Qi Lanyin believes that it is determined by character. "in the last program, Qi Wei said that those who often talk about divorce in marriage will not do so. I think the mention of divorce is not necessarily a minefield, it depends on the personalities of both sides. If it is the kind of bored boys and girls, it is more serious to mention this matter all of a sudden. But it would be okay to mention it as hilariously as Ruofeng and I usually do."

" my Little couple broadcast, Qi Lanyin thought that he would be scolded by netizens for "do you still love me". Unexpectedly, he gained a lot of support instead of his "work". Many netizens even thought that Qi Lanyin's "doing with a degree" was precisely the great wisdom of marriage. To this, Xiao Qi said: "it is normal for a couple to quarrel with each other. If two people don't quarrel, it's not like love." There are bound to be disputes and disagreements between people, but after the quarrel, we must make it clear that the two people have good intentions, but there are differences in some ideas, so there is some friction. Husband and wife must know where the other half's bottom line is before getting married. Everyone has their own bottom line, which must be respected and do not hurt each other. In fact, in love, we don't have to struggle with the process of quarrelling, but about the result of quarrelling, whether we are really reconciled. "

in addition, the "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem" that has attracted much attention seems to have been successfully resolved by Xiao Qi. In the interview, Qi proudly said: "now my mother-in-law is like my aunt. Getting along with her is like being with my mother and sister. I am still very happy to be like this with my mother-in-law."

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through the records of the couple's marriage life and the re-examination of the husband and wife's life, Ruofeng Qi Lanyin also gained a lot of marriage insights. Ruofeng said: "I think for me, the biggest impact is reflection, because if I do not jump out, I will not realize what I am like in life." I always thought I was fine, but when I jumped out to see it, I found that I actually lacked the care for my family. So "my young couple" is more like a mirror, reflecting a look of me, reflecting a state of my own life, so that I get self-reflection and know that sometimes I should be careful what I say and do. "

Qi Lanyin, who has been sitting in the observation room to observe himself, said that he has jumped out of the confusion of marriage, opened up a new perspective of introspection, and gained more insights: "when I look at myself, I will jump to the perspective of a third party, and I will constantly reflect on where I am not good enough, because there are scenes of single people filmed in the program, as well as scenes of me. When it comes to his solo scene, I know that he has made a lot of efforts to do something, so I can understand him very well, and I am very pleased. "

referring to the fact that many young people are now "afraid of marriage" and "non-marriage", Qi Lanyin also expressed his point of view from his own perspective: "everyone has his own life choice. You can't force his life to end with marriage. He must start a family and have children as his purpose in life, and everyone has the right to choose his own life, which should not be stopped. But if both sides really love each other, don't give up easily, because there are so many people in this world, it's not easy to find someone who can sympathize with you. " Ruofeng believes that a good marriage should be equal: "We should give each other more understanding, respect and tolerance. If two people have the same right to speak, they must dare to love and dare to love, but at the same time be cautious. If you want to get married, you must think clearly. If you love, don't let yourself regret it."

if the wind unconditionally supports his wife's career ambition, Qi Lan Yin suggests postpartum depression: men should do a good job to appease / strong >

now, women's postpartum comeback has become a hot topic. How should women balance the relationship between career and family, and how their self-worth should be realized? this is an issue raised by the "young couple of my family" through observation. In the program, Xiao Qi expressed her desire to work more than once. In this regard, Xiao Qi also told us her career plan in the interview: "I don't have a particularly clear plan for my future work, but I may want to do something more media, whether it is self-media or continue to work in film and television. These are still thinking." I hope to help my husband share the burden of the family and give my children a better family. I also hope to use my strength to help my family and enrich myself. "

for Xiao Qi's plans for the future, Ruofeng expressed his strong support: "I support her unconditionally." If she doesn't want to devote herself to her work, in fact, I hope to protect her more and not even let her record "my couple." but since she is involved, I will certainly support her and hope that she will get better and better. I hope he can show others its value and be recognized by others. "

in addition to supporting each other's cause, the couple also talked about their children's future life plans. Ruofeng, who was born in the e-sports circle, does not object to the child entering the e-sports circle in the future: "if he loves e-sports, he will study like me." if he wants to surpass me, I don't mind that he is superior to the blue, and I don't mind that I use my energy to train him, but if he doesn't love it, I won't force him. " Qi Lanyin also expressed the same attitude: "I prefer to let my child grow savagely. As long as he wants to do it, and he can do it very seriously, we will support it."

in the program, Xiao Qi talked about the topic of postpartum depression. in this interview, Xiao Qi also used the experience of "experience" to give advice to mothers suffering from postpartum depression: "my advice should be given to my husband. After having a child, the husband should love his wife more, pay attention to the psychological gap of women during the period after giving birth, as well as some psychological changes, and appease their partner. If postpartum depression is very serious, you should seek help from your doctor in time, and you can also watch some interesting TV dramas to distract you. There is also to find something for yourself to do, because after giving birth, everyone will take maternity leave, or sit for a month, that period is actually very boring, so a lot of time will be wishful thinking. I suggest that you can find something you like to do that you are interested in. "